Best Client Practices 201
Hear ye lads, professor Josie has a special course for her most advanced students and you don't want to miss it ...
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Hear ye, hear ye!
I’m starting an advice column about the world of paid companionship for my top tier subscribers on Substack.
I have released this one from BEHIND the paywall because I feel like this is very valuable advice that we can all benefit from :)
I want all my boyfriends du jour to feel more confident and happy in their role so I hope this advice column helps! You can email me directly with questions or I can reach out to you directly. I’ll keep your questions anonymous for our discretion.
Thank you to the first subscriber who’ll be kicking off this series!
Dear Josie,
I’m on a constant quest for knowledge of this new world I am choosing to join. Etiquette do’s and don’t’s are normally no brainers. Yes we should smell fresh & clean. What I want to know is how to become a true favorite, someone a provider looks forward to seeing on a regular interval. Respect and trust go without saying also. Professionalism about transactions will contribute to both. But what makes a provider adore/appreciate a client? I also understand that each will have their own preferences and honest communication will help you get there.
Also a general understanding of benefits of some of the spicier add-ons. What makes a client want a kinkier session or how I first saw your profile, thanks to Max, the duo experience? Does it have to be a preexisting fantasy or something I am really missing out on if don’t at least try it once.
I don’t know but it would be great if there was a Guide to being a SW client. An advanced class not just one for dummies
Sincerely,
A perpetual student of life
Dear Student of Life,
Thank you so much for signing up for my advance course for clients and asking such an insightful question! For this newsletter, I will answer the question of the favorite and next month, I’ll expound upon the question of kink and duos.
As a seven year veteran of the world of paid companionship, this question sent me into a thoughtful reverie…
Why are some knighted the title of “The Favorite”, and why have others have been sentenced to the stocks?
Why do you want to be considered “the favorite”?
We all have our reasons! It’s always good to reflect upon why.
I am a recovering people pleaser (shout out to therapy) so I relate to this desire. I have had to think long and hard though about why I want to be people’s favorite. I have a healthier relationship to relating to people in general now, and would like to provide some roundabout advice and questions of reflection.
Do I want to become the favorite because I expect something from becoming the favorite?
As a former people pleaser, I had wanted to become “the favorite” because I feared people leaving me. I found ways to overextend myself so the person would feel obligated to return a favor even if they didn’t ask for me for such a favor.
Obviously, a rather unhealthy way to conduct my relationships because people pleasing relationships feel like they’re resting on the rather disastrous foundation of unsaid expectations, distrust of the other person’s gifts and acts of service, and a feeling of unwanted obligation to “return the favor” even if the favor was unwanted.
Now after many years of reflection, boxes of journals, and tissue boxes, I enjoy giving selflessly without any expectation. I gift my friends and lovers because I want to see them happy, not because of fear they’ll leave me.
Their gifts may be things I don’t understand (Avatar the Airbender socks, a gift card to their favorite restaurant, a strange sweater), but I gift it to them anyways because this relationship brings me joy and I want to bring them joy especially in this very stressful world we live in.
I hope this story helps you become the favorite not out of fear that your favorite companion will leave you, but because you’ve found joy in making your favorite companion’s life easier and happier.
When my clients/boyfriends want to make my life easier without any sense of expectation, I feel genuinely taken care of.
When I’ve received gifts with the expectation of something more and guilt tripping, it’s given gift giving a dirty name.
Don’t be that lad!!! Gift freely and expect nothing in return. I do show the most love to my boyfriends du jour who gift generously and freely because I want them to be recognized for being so kind and thoughtful.
When I went on my emergency hiatus last year, I ducked into my cave. There was no whimsical and sensual business as usual from the desk of Josie Qu.
However, there were some very wonderful clients who thought of me and sent me tips without me asking! I did not expect that at all since I didn’t make any posts asking for help.
To this day, I still get teary eyed thinking about my lads who genuinely cared for my well being without any expectation of anything in return. It still means the world to me that they wanted me to heal without stressing myself about finances.
I used to pride myself as a “independent” woman who could take care of myself and others, but I’ve learned that it’s just as nourishing to my spirit be taken care of as well.
Homework assignment: Ask your favorite provider how you can take care of them (and follow through)!
You don’t have to wait until an emergency, you can care for your provider in many ways :)
If you’re feeling shy asking this question, here are some ways you can put a smile on your favorite companion’s face!
Comb through their wishlist and send them a little something!
Sponsor a coffee and a delicious pastry if you’re a bit tight on funds, but you still want to put a smile on your favorite provider’s face!
Help out with the cost of their next photoshoot (location, outfits, travel, photography fees, etc.)
Sponsor a meal, nothing nourishes the body and spirit like delicious food
Extra credit
Book a duo with their friend!!! I love spending time with friends especially when we’re all naked.
Prebook and send a full deposit for an upcoming date!
Take their mind off the evils of capitalism (rent, health insurance, student loans, etc.) so they can focus on making art, exploring the world, reading books, dilly dallying as all hot girls do.
Sponsor a relaxing day, maybe it’s a day at the spa, maybe it’s a day at the beach with their dog, maybe it’s a day just to laze around. We all deserve rest in these trying times.
If you’re feeling like balling out, sponsor their next vacation, future education opportunities, their business venture, their pet bills, etc.