I’ve joked around on twitter that you should book the girl before she turns into a vengeful city swan, but what happens when you finally decide to book the companion of your dreams?

I’ve decided to write this short wikihow because I’ve met many sweet first time lovers who needed guidance during this process. May you read this and prosper! 

1. Thoroughly complete her contact/booking form on her website 

Many companions including myself have bustling lives and are not available the same day. I recommend reaching out at least 72 hours to 48 hours ahead of the planned date.  

• Please give your real world information. Since sex work is criminalized, we need to screen to determine whether we’ll be a good fit for our safety and comfort. When you hide your real world identity, we suspect that you have more unsavory things you’re hiding.

• If you’re considering writing a message full of crude abbreviations, delete and start again. It’s disrespectful. Do you talk to your mother with that mouth? 

• If you have any fetishes and want to assess compatibility, you can either respectfully inquire in the email, or bring it up in person. 

2.  How long should I book?

There’s such a range of options: Dinner dates, overnights, 1 hour dates, 2 hour dates,  24 hours? What should I choose?

• I strongly suggest the dinner date length for the first date. Treating our senses to delicious food and drink, there’s no better way to start our connection. 

• Yet, there is no need to limit our first date to just dinner! If you know that you might get nervous over dinner, there’s always other ways to enjoy each other’s company: biking, cooking classes, art classes, etc. The world is our oyster! 

• If your schedule is packed, I suggest 1.5 or 2 hours for our first date so we don’t feel rushed. For first dates, one hour is simply too rushed for us to fully enjoy our time together. 

3. You’ve passed screening Leading up the date

Congratulations! You’ve made it to the final round, your screening information has been processed, you’ve sent a deposit, now what do you do? 

1. Book her online services, maybe you want to see more of her via OF, Sext Panther, Niteflirt, etc.! Do not send her unpaid endless emails leading up to the date, this will cause your companion to be very anxious and to fade away like an overwatered plant.

2. Pursue her wishlist if you want to make a wonderful first impression. Gifts don’t have to big, even their favorite flavor of kombucha and flowers (or a plant) will make your companion smile (it’s me I love kombucha)!

3. Get a great night’s sleep, and remember this experience is about you enjoying yourself! Do not feel like your experience needs to be what society expects (see TER, every movie ever)! I’ve had many lovers who value the connection we’ve built as much as our sensual time together. 

4. Day of the date

It’s the big day, you’ve got it! All you gotta do is show up on time, be respectful, perhaps bring the thoughtful gift you’ve found, and you’re in good hands. See you soon in Flavortown!

XOXO,

Josie Qu